With understanding about understanding :)

My mother has a big social network. She used to have good relationships and go to saunas or beanfeasts with theHeads and Viceheads of companies.

Once of them, a successful and influential woman asked me then:
- Do you have a boyfriend?

(Let me explain :), in Lithuania starting from 13 years, it's the common question from relatives, neighbours and guests).

And then she told me: "It's good that you don't hurry. Just find someone who understands you."

Her words stuck in my mind because she married from love, but her husband used to beat her and otherwise humiliate her. After some time she divorced and is very happy with her second husband. That was the time she told me about understanding. I always kept it as a guideline in my relationships. Because passion can die, love? love, as I've seen from other people's and my own life does not ensure good relations and understanding.

And now when I'm already more experienced in girl-guy relation :), one evening I reflected "What is understanding?" There are different levels and different types of understanding.

So for my clarity I classified understanding into:
1. Mental understanding - sharing similar ideas about events, items or subjects. This type of understanding ensures that people are good discussion partners;
2. Experiential understanding - it comes through similar life experience, similar struggles;
3. Emotional understanding - it is understanding and supporting each other's feelings (happiness, sadness, fears, joys...);
4. Spiritual understanding - it is sharing spiritual experiences and understanding in the spiritual level (faith, values..).

If there are 4 levels of understanding, I doubt that all of them can be found in 1 person. So which understanding did she mean???