About a year ago one guy I liked a lot, has hurt me. So I told to myself: "Give me a break. From now on I look at guys as only at friends".I prayed to God to give me guys-friends to better understand their world-view. And He gave to me friends who took good care of me. Hallelujah! :)
It is true that I needed to rest in peace and treat guys only as friends. That was what I needed. So I did it. I truly enjoyed those friendships!
But what I did not consider was that a friendship between a guy and a girl is a very risky path. I didn't know that a line between friendship and relationship can be so thin... It might sound naive, but sometimes I really don't know my impact on guys. I am not a guy, so it's forgivable! :)
I've read the results of one interesting research: they showed that guys perceived girls' friendly behaviour as interest in them. Probably that's a part of explanation what happened.
If I close my eyes before some event, the event remains, ha? ;) So I was blind to see where "sincere communication" can lead to. Of course, the level of closeness differs with everyone. From my point of view, I was not too open and I did not show interest in the guys who asked me to be their girlfriend. Maybe this is where the girl's and boy's world-views mismatch :)
What I want to say is that my treating guys as friends didn't prevent them from treating me as a girl :) To sum up, I learned to be more careful with friendships with guys... Though I don't know how to put it in practice...
2 comments:
Isn't it flattering ;) Maybe God gave you a lot so you have lots of options :)
It is nice from one side, but then you face the responsibility part. God is showing to me that there are very nice guys and guy's love is something very precious. :)
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